I’ve always believed that you are your child’s first teacher. Children model what they see at home, first. Learned behavior and beliefs shape who we are. What we believe IS who we are. Behavior is how we act based on what we believe. What we do is a result of what we believe. I guess the questions are: What are we teaching our kids at home? And What did we learn as kids that we are passing down? Or the lack there of. I mean, what can we teach our children that will secure their future and your family’s legacy?
Although I have 4 children, with the oldest being 17 and youngest 5, I found that children learn from when what you say and do mirrors one to another. As I grew up, I remember the saying, “Do as I say not what I do”. As a kid that meant just do what I say, but if you see me do something wrong just bypass that and remember what was said instead. Now! As a woman with kids and family of my own, I realize that that statement has caused me all kinds of confusion. At this point in my life I’m still coming to terms with a lot of things that I saw and knew was wrong but was told on the other hand what was right and I “should” do that. I have definetly thrown away that misconception of a myth that was passed down. I want what I say to be lived out as what I do. I want my kids to know that if I say it, my actions will back that up. For example, if I say don’t drink and drink…naturally I won’t be a person who drinks and drive because I first believe its wrong, I know its wrong, law supports its wrong, therefore, my actions will mirror my beliefs. Basically, we have to start practicing what we preach to our children. We have to lead solely by example. And be mindful of the things we allow our children to be exposed to. Because those things can allow contamination of our children. Children are more aware of what you do, then what you say. They are always watching and can’t wait for a moment to act like you. Children admire their parents, whether good or bad. Let’s be better teachers of life than the streets, blogs, videos, music, T.V., social media outlets and so on.
Are you leaving a legacy? Let’s talk about it.